Redefining MommyhoodJourney of a mom whose son is overcoming hypotonia

On top of everything that happened at Mommy & Me today, the teacher also went around the room to talk to all of us about school for next term. This is the second Mommy & Me class we have done. Luke technically should have gone into the “All By Myself” class this time, but he wasn’t allowed because he wasn’t walking. That was ok with me in the end, since I wasn’t comfortable leaving him alone to fend for himself. I am even more worried about that after today’s incident! Luke is already one of the oldest toddlers in our class. His teacher suggested that he do ANOTHER Mommy & Me session after this, then possibly do the All By Myself over the summer session, which would be 2 days a week from 9am-noon. Most of the other moms in the class seem to be stressing over this whole preschool thing and are registering their kids for the fall already!

It’s hard for any mom to leave their child alone for the first time, especially when they have any sort of “issue”. Everyone seems to be so concerned with getting their toddlers into “preschool” at the age of 2. I always thought that traditional preschool started at the age of 3?? I really don’t see what the big deal is, as long as they are learning things at home and being socialized through other classes, groups, storytime etc. Maybe I am just being my paranoid, neurotic self, but I think Luke will be ok if he isn’t in formal school until after his 3rd birthday. He will be starting Kindergarten before I know it, so shouldn’t he (and I) enjoy this time as a toddler? Not to mention, this school is fairly expensive. I would much rather spend the money doing other fun things and therapy options to make sure he is fully caught up by the time he does go to kindergarten, or even pre-k.

Am I making a mountain out of a mole hill here, or do I have a valid point?

I’ve been so happy the past couple weeks with everything new that Luke is doing. He is standing independently, taking steps, and getting into a standing position from the floor by himself! I have been really feeling like he is on the road to “normalcy” until today…

We had Mommy & Me class today and everything went well until around noon. We had just gotten done doing “Ring Around The Rosie” on the parachute, Luke was standing slightly behind me and all of the sudden, for no apparent reason, he fell over like a tree in the woods! Usually when he loses his balance while standing, he will bend his knees and fall with his hands down. Not this time. He fell flat backwards, onto the hard concrete floor that only has indoor/outdoor carpet covering it and smacked his head on the floor! Everyone heard him hit and gasped. It sounded like a bowling ball being dropped onto concrete. Luckily, it didn’t knock him out, but he was screaming and sobbing. He had a small, red spot on his head where he hit. The teacher gave us an ice pack, but he wanted nothing to do with it! She was more freaked out than I was and said that I shouldn’t let him fall asleep on the way home. I have to drive 30 minutes, so I knew he would probably fall asleep! She suggested that I take him to his pediatrician, since he is only down the street from school.

I took Luke into the doctor’s office. He checked him out and didn’t see any signs of concussion or other injury. He said as long as he didn’t go unconscious, he should be ok, but to keep a close eye on him for 24 hours. He has been his normal self today, maybe a little crankier. I’m sure his head is sore, so I gave him a little Tylenol when we got home.

I know that all kids get bumps and bruises and eventually hit their head on things, but not like this. I wouldn’t have been as worried about the overall picture if he had just fallen off of something, but he fell over for no reason. Luke still has some sort of issue with balance and depth perception. I don’t know if there is something being overlooked or if it’s just part of his developmental delays that will get better with time as he gets stronger and more coordinated.

I’m trying not to let today’s little setback get me down. Luke has been doing so well and has come so far in just the past few months:)

I have been working very hard to do my daily positive affirmations. I made it a point to say a bunch to myself in the shower this morning. It’s amazing how much better it makes me feel and how wonderful my days end up being from saying them!

It’s a beautiful day out today, chilly, but warm in the sunshine. Luke and I had lunch, then went out in the backyard to play for a bit in his sandbox. He has been taking more and more independent steps this week. Monday at PT he took 5 all by himself! I wanted to try and get him to walk in the grass (with his shoes and DAFOs) since it’s an uneven surface. He was standing pretty close to our fence when he heard a dog bark. He thought it was the neighbor’s little dog, so he wanted to walk over to the fence to try and look through. He took a total of 21 small steps to get there!!! It took him a bit and he lost his balance once, but he didn’t fall and he kept going! I was so proud, and I could tell that he was very proud of himself too!!

I think a lot of Luke’s issue with walking now is confidence. Since he knows that he can take a few steps by himself, he seems to be building on that to get further. Next week he will be running (my positive affirmation for him)!!!:-)

My sister and her youngest daughter came to visit over the weekend. We spent the day walking around St. Augustine and being tourists. We were walking along George St. checking out the shops, when I overheard 2 moms chatting. They both had sons that were 15 months old. The one boy was walking along with his parents, while the other was in his stroller. I heard the mom with the boy in the stroller say “look, see that boy, that is what you are supposed to be doing”. The mom of the walking boy said that he started walking shortly after his 1st birthday. The non-walking boy mom said “well, he is just starting to walk, so he will get there”.

It’s amazing how much we moms compare our children to others. What is “normal” for one, may not be “normal” for another. I have definitely learned that children all do things in their own time. There sometimes isn’t an explanation for things. We would be so much better off if we could sit back and just enjoy these early years with our children and appreciate them for who they are. I know it’s hard not to worry and wonder. I still do it everyday!

We had a breakthrough yesterday during our in-home physical therapy. Luke has not been cooperating very well for the therapist, but she was playing with some of his blocks and he decided he wanted to play. He likes to take his toy tools and break apart his Mega Blocks. The PT had some of the blocks in her hand while Luke was standing. He would swing the toy tool (probably not the safest thing to do!) and break the blocks apart. She kept backing up and Luke eventually took 4 steps total!! He even fell forward, put his hands on the floor, then stood back up all by himself!! The therapist was so happy, but she didn’t dare cheer too loudly because she didn’t want to scare him and have him drop to the floor. Luke took a couple tiny steps 2 weeks ago at his other therapy, but these were true steps!!! Yay!!! I’m going to keep practicing with him using his blocks. I know once he feels confident with that, he will decide to take steps while doing other things:)

Luke had his first experience with horseback riding today. They aren’t a certified hippotherapy location, but he can do therapeutic riding. He cried the first couple times we put him up on the horse, but once he started walking, he loved it! They walked him around for about 30 minutes. We are hoping to go back again next weekend.

Luke so far this week has not wanted to cooperate with his physical therapists. I am almost to the point where I feel like it’s a waste of time for all of us. He is definitely acting like a two year old now!

I was very frustrated today after our therapist left. He doesn’t want to do much for her and we haven’t really been shown much to do with him that is new. I remembered reading about horseback riding as a form of physical therapy. It is called hippotherapy. I found two places that are certified to do it, but they are both about an hour and a half drive from our house. I thought that he could still benefit from ordinary horseback riding though. There is an agricultural museum semi close to us that does lessons. I’ve been meaning to make a trip out there to check the place out, but we haven’t gone yet. I called them today and set up an appointment for this weekend for Luke to try therapeutic riding. The instructor has a daughter with special needs, so she knows exactly where we are coming from. How refreshing for us! She said that the therapeutic riding that she can show him is more enjoyable for the kids whereas hippotherapy is more actual “work” for them and they don’t always enjoy it. She said she started her daughter with riding, then tried to switch her to hippotherapy and she hated it.

I’m hoping this new type of therapy will be a fun experience for all of us. Luke loves animals and it’s always nice to do something outdoors. He’s seen horses up close, but never been on one, so we will see how the first session goes:)

I’m also trying to find somewhere for him to do some aquatic type therapies. If I can’t find anything, I may just sign him up for swim lessons locally. That will be fun, useful and therapeutic.